Top 6 Secrets to a Happy and Successful Marriage

Everyone says that the courtship period before you tie the knot is the best time of your relationship. Then come the first few years of your marriage, which are like an extended honeymoon phase and are also the most blossoming years in your marriage. This is followed by the phase where you start a family, get busy in your respective careers and start giving each other less time and attention. But wouldn’t it be great if you knew the secret behind making your relationship successful at any age and at any phase? To help you out, we unfold some of these secrets that make for a happy and successful marriage.Read more after the break...

Learn the art of appreciation

Everyone feels nice when appreciated. In a marriage, both the partners have their own set of household and other chores. But receiving appreciation for your work by your spouse at least once in a while would make you feel loved and valued. ‘Sweetheart, the food tastes amazing today’ or ‘the lawn looks perfectly mowed. You did a great job with it!’ are some nice gestures of appreciation. So, try this out to see your love and bond grow fonder!

Don't say anything unkind or harsh

While talking normally on any matter or while in an argument, always let your words be kind. Even if in an irritated mood you tend to raise your voice on each other, do not make the mistake of using harsh words or abuses. That is something you will regret later. For a happy marriage, sometimes it is better to be quiet and avoid tiffs than to yell out your point of view.

Expect less and do more

Never have very high expectations from one another. What your partner was like at the beginning of your marriage, his/her attitude, way of showing affection, etc. might not be the same through all the years. As time passes by, people and their priorities change but that does not mean that the love flies out of the window. So, do not compare your present with the past constantly and crib. Instead, keep doing your best and when you both do your best for each other, things will always be blossoming.

Put your ego aside

Saying sorry does not make you a small person. There should be no place for egos in a marriage. If it is your fault then open up and accept it. If apologising can make the matter better then do so without any hesitations. Also, if your spouse apologises then instead of blowing your own trumpet of being right, learn to forgive and move on. Marriage is a place where two people can be comfortable with each other, so make your relationship like that.

Good always comes out of bad experiences

Always remember that a fight too can bring the two of you closer when you come out of it. Don’t think that constant issues between the two of you are driving you apart and the only solution left is separation. When things go wrong and nothing seems to go the way you wanted, work on them to make them right instead of being a quitter. Problems and bad experiences can help your relationship to grow stronger and fonder!

Communicate

When you communicate with your partner, you both come to know each other’s points of view on every matter. You also get to know what is going on in your spouse’s heart. A lot of petty issues can be solved just by speaking your hearts out to each other. So why not give the art of communicating a shot?